People are people and this world is filled with lots of them. Family, friends, neighbors, co-workers the list goes on and on. Life is full of constant introductions and interactions with others. There are people we like, people we tolerate and people we love.
While philosophers have spent the ages trying to figure out the meaning of life, my view is more simplistic. I believe we are here to be happy and share that happiness with the world. I have learned to appreciate life’s blessings, be grateful, make a positive difference and to recognize when it is time to move on. Each & every day can be a lesson. I am always learning something new about myself or someone else. I try to look at things within the larger scheme of ‘life’. Living being mindful of the big picture of achieving my goals, taking care of my family & helping those in need along the way.
Unfortunately, life has speed bumps & complications. Everyone at some point in time is faced with the toxic person. Someone’s who sucks the life right out of us. Usually this person is angry, self-centered and destructive. While I was once married to someone like this, I recommend steer clear of these individuals.
Sometimes this person presents themselves in the form of a neighbor, co-worker or ‘friend’. Deciding to avoid people like this can be fairly easy. What however, if this person is a member of your own family? To what lengths does someone go to in order to try to ‘preserve’ a relationship especially when the relationship is destroying you? Like trying to fit a square peg into a round hole, not every relationship fits or works. We must be willing to compromise, be silent and be accepting. Yes life is about getting along & compromising, the toxic person goes beyond this. There are times when we have to re-evaluate our relationships and make tough decision for our own well-being. Being safe, loved a respected far outweighs any benefit of dealing with a toxic person.
Positive people are a blessing, the negative ones a cancer. We remove cancer with surgery, chemotherapy and radiation. Just like cancer, in order to survive it is necessary to remove toxic people from our life. Our survival may depend on it. The decision is never an easy one, but the reward is monumental. There are times you have to ‘cut your losses’ and walk away from the drama for our own sake because our lives sanity, happiness & lives may depend on it.
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